Three steps to achieving your goals with help from NLP coach and former health and fitness trainer Anna Aparicio
Not what you want to have, but what you want to be able to do.
What do you want specifically? When do you want it by? Where? With whom? What for? What will happen if you achieve that? What if you don't achieve that? Is it under your control? Is it worth it?You see, when setting up goals, a lot of people do it wrong. They state what they want to have, not what they want to do; things like "I want to be slim", "I want a six pack" or "I want to have toned arms"... But, what do you want to do? Because it is as a result of you doing what you need to do that you will get to have what you want.Your objective needs to be stated in a way that your brain understands it. And just like your computer, your brain needs three things: affirmative statements that are direct and very specific.If you are just thinking it then it is not an objective, it is just a thought. So, put pen to paper and write your answers to the questions above.If you don't know what you want, how will you figure out how to get there, and how will you know when you've got there?
If you don't have a plan, all you have is some lovely thoughts now and again. I suggest you get yourself a diary, an Excel sheet, a calendar, whatever works for you, and devise your personal strategy. A strategy to suit your lifestyle, your working schedule, etc...Keeping the end result in mind, what is the first step you need to take in order for you to do what you need to do? And after that? What's next? Do you have all the resources you need (resources are materials, books, money, people), or do you need help?If it's going to take you 12 weeks to get a six pack , set a date and work backwards from there. If you want to lose a stone in 3 weeks, do the same. Break your objective into smaller, more achievable chunks, so that this week you know exactly what you are doing with regards to training and nutrition, and you can focus on just that. As I tell my clients, it's one week at a time, one day at a time.You see, now you have more than just a nice thought; now you have a plan of action. And believe it or not, this is what most people lack. It's hard to get motivated if you don't know what you want to get motivated for!And what are you going to do when you are tired, sad, in a mad mood, frustrated...? You must put strategies in place, so when that happens - and it will - you know exactly what to do. You have to become a bit of a Ninja!
One of the main functions of the brain is to prove itself right. So, whatever you focus on is magnified, as the brain thinks it is an objective of yours. Also, the brain doesn't know the difference between a vividly imagined memory and reality. This is why if you want to do something, it's vital you imagine yourself doing it like this (read this NLP resource fully before you do it):
Repeat 3 times, first sitting down, and then standing up, and notice how you feel even more motivated!
Do this every day for the next week and notice your motivation levels soar.
Read more motivation help from Anna Aparicio on our Expert clinic page.
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